Uncertainties Pt. II

30 minutes ago I wrote:  "One thing is certain.  Come hell or high water I'm going to the 24 hours of Moab and will ride until I can't."

5 minutes ago my sister told me I have to be in Phoenix Oct 13th - for her wedding!  Apparently beyond age 40 you can dispense with that courtship part and skip to the wedding.

What would you do?

This fucking pig has got to go.

Published Tuesday, October 02, 2007 7:34 AM by Dave


# @ Tuesday, October 02, 2007 8:07 AM

I would race in Moab on the 13th.

But I have never been one to rank a "family function" above everything else in my life and often blow off Thanksgiving and/or Christmas with the extended family to go on some sort of outdoor adventure. In fact, this year I am leaning towards Thanksgiving in Moab!

dave byers

# @ Tuesday, October 02, 2007 8:20 AM

That all depends on how close you and your sister are!

Hope to see you in Moab. :)


# @ Tuesday, October 02, 2007 8:52 AM

Holy Crapsicle! As Carol Ann would say. That's one helluva dilemma. Hopefully, your sister is only getting married once.


# @ Tuesday, October 02, 2007 9:02 AM


Ugh. That is a tough one. And it brings up an interesting topic. My family looks at my racing with a sort of exasperation. They don't understand the "it" or the "why" or anything else that pushes me to do these things. Luckily my wife sees the positive effects that racing and riding has on my overall being, but it is lost on my parents and siblings.

So if you miss the wedding for a "bike race" then you have to put up with them hanging it over your head the rest of your life. If you miss the race for the wedding, you will have trouble sleeping at night...

Here's what you do. Go to the race, win the race, and use the prize money to buy your sister a nice wedding gift. Maybe a pair of mountain bikes for her and her new husband.

Adam L.

# @ Tuesday, October 02, 2007 10:21 AM

I think Adam's on to something here!

and for what it's worth-- we got married on short notice, lots of people missed it because of prior obligations, and life went on.

On the other hand.. she IS your sister!



# @ Tuesday, October 02, 2007 11:36 AM

Dave -

Tough choices! I won't add my 2 cents. Just looking for your thorough review of that new rig of yours! The Siren Song sounds pretty sweet! Are you adjusting to life in St. George? Scoped out the local IGA's, quilting shops, and Phat Farm outlets I assume?

Dr. Woo

# @ Tuesday, October 02, 2007 12:22 PM

Nuttiness is in the air. Hang in there. You will be fast at Moab and we will be there to cheer you on.


# @ Tuesday, October 02, 2007 2:37 PM

I say bike race....but, then again...I am a bike geek.

If you have to go to the wedding....make her reimburse you the entry fee :-)

Jeff Kerkove

# @ Tuesday, October 02, 2007 5:05 PM

Ahhh!! New Idea. Explain to the sister what a beautiful backdrop the red rocks of Moab are for a beautiful outdoor wedding - she sounds impulsive, maybe she'll go for it!


# @ Tuesday, October 02, 2007 7:47 PM


where's the wedding? maybe treat moab as a 12 -14 hr race then clean up drive to wedding then do that stuff?

might be a new muti-sport! =)

Man that is a doosey!

It truly is the year of the pig!


# @ Tuesday, October 02, 2007 10:12 PM

I would never have missed my sister's wedding for a race but my sister also told me what day her wedding was going to be almost a year before she got married. If she had only given me 10 days notice and I had a race that day that i had been working towards for a couple months... well, the gift would have been in the mail and i would have called her to hear about the wedding just as soon as i was done racing. in my mind it comes down to simply doing what you would most regret not doing. as far as some kind of obligation/expectation with being at your sister's wedding, in my mind that does come with immediate family member's weddings, but not so much when you are given less than 2 weeks notice.

Geoff Roes

# @ Wednesday, October 03, 2007 9:00 AM

Is this a trick question? I'd also ask Fat Cyclist for counsel.

I agree with Geoff, if I had a race plan on the burner for months I'd consider it my sister's responsibility and duty to check calendars before making wedding plans and inviting close family members. Ten days notice...DOH!

I was lucky, my GF was very understanding about my attending the VT125 instead of her cousin's wedding in Sept. :-)